Stop and Listen!

Do we listen? I mean really listen? We can hear the words that come out of a person’s mouth and recognize what they mean but it does not mean we really listen.

The biggest problem that we have is when we don’t listen to others we don’t learn about them or their beliefs or ideas. When that happens we become ignorant and those ignorant beliefs turn into ignorant comments that can be hurtful or mean.

Here are some examples: Have you ever talked to a person from a different religion to see what they believe? Not listen to what the media says, or read about a book about someone’s beliefs, or hear it from someone outside of that religious belief. Also, have you just listened to what they had to say without trying to change their views or argue with them about why they are wrong and you are right?

People talk all the time about Muslims but have you ever met a Muslim and talked to them and listened to them without trying to change them? One of the greatest memories I have from my master’s program is speaking to a Muslim leader of an after school program for youth. I did not try to “preach” to him or change his views but I listened. And you know what, I was inspired by him. I was inspired because instead of talking about or preaching about helping the poor he was doing it. He was making a difference in a downtown area that needed help. I was inspired by his devotion and his commitment. It did not mean I believed everything he said but there where principles I learned that stuck with me. (And no I did not preach to him and no his “blood will not be on my hands” like many people who abuse this verse to drive fear into people for not sharing their faith).

Here is another one. Have you ever talked to someone who said they were a Christian and Gay? I mean really listen to them and not try to come up with scripture or clever arguments to combat what they say. I have to say I haven’t but I would love to listen to what that individual had to say. Not what the media says, or a textbook says but listen to the words from an individual who has feelings and needs like any other human being.

(A side note: I wonder if the reason why people who consider themselves to be Christian and Gay don’t come to our churches goes beyond theological differences to that they won’t come because “Christians” treat them like lepers rather than people).

So here’s my challenge: Listen! You may not agree with everything another person says but at least you will know where that person is coming from. Maybe through listening it will open an opportunity for you to share what you believe and why. (And not fake listening just so you can share your views) It might not change a person but at least they will be more willing to listen to what you have to say.